Victims of violence are often unable to escape abusive relationships. To make matters worse, the pandemic has strengthened the bonds that bind them to the insecurity of their own homes.
On Women's Day, the figures show the cruel reality of love relationships that, over time, have turned to violence. According to the Federal District Public Security Secretariat (SSP-DF), January to February this year, 2,534 victims of domestic violence sought the police to report the attackers. Although the cases show a reduction of more than 10% in relation to the same period in 2020, experts analyze the need for social education to change this reality.
“What I went through I do not wish for anyone. While I was beaten and kicked on that floor, I thought I was going to die. ” This is the outburst of Simone *, 29, one of 11 victims of this year's attempted femicide. After the crime, the man, 30 years old, ran away and, until the closing of this edition, he had not been arrested.
Simone started a relationship with Sérgio * in 2016, marked by moments of affection. In love, the young woman got married, but under the same roof, her partner's behavior became abusive.
“I couldn't see my family, I had no rights. I started to be removed living with my friends and even my daughter, the result of a previous relationship ”, she recalls.
The first episode of physical aggression occurred in 2018. “In the middle of a jealous argument, he hit me. I didn't go to the police. I was in love and blind. I did not listen to my family's warnings and decided to restart, with the promise that he would change ”, she says.
But Sérgio has not changed. “And the violence has only increased. In the second episode, in 2019, I was two months pregnant. He needed absolute rest, it was a risky pregnancy. But Sérgio did not respect and stressed me daily, until, one day, I had a bleed. He didn't want to take me to the hospital and pushed me. I lost my baby ”, she says.
In the last assault, in February of this year, Simone had a protective measure. Even so, the criminal went to the victim's residence, broke the gate and ordered him to give him R $ 300 to pay a drug debt. “He locked the door and started to beat me. I managed to count until the third punch, then I lost my strength ”, reports the victim. The aggression stopped only after Simone received help neighbors, but the aggressor fled.
Professor of social service at the Catholic University of Brasilia (UCB), Adelina Almeida de Araújo explains that leaving a situation of violence, in general, lasts 10 to 12 years. “This situation chains women. Usually, after the aggressions, the man asks for forgiveness, makes vows, justifies that it will not happen again. This is repeated until the time one aggression to another becomes shorter and shorter and this violence becomes more serious ”, she explains.
For Adelina, it is essential to improve policies to protect and assist women, in addition to encouraging new actions. “The emblematic issue in our society is structural machismo. It is necessary to break the silence that covers society and the State ”, she says.
Roberta de Ávila, responsible for the Sub-Secretariat for Psychosocial Activity (Suap), defends the need for reflective groups for men who commit violence in order to reduce the recurrence of these cases. “It is also necessary to study masculinity and reflection for men, in order to evaluate this structuring issue of gender stereotypes”, she points out.
Reflective groups address important issues to restructure and modify man's thinking. "The men who participate in this group generally do not recur in cases of violence, and most of them multiply this in their living spaces," she emphasizes.
This month, the Public Security Secretariat launches the Protected Persons Monitoring Device (DMPP) to monitor perpetrators of domestic violence and ensure the safety of victims. The pilot project has five women, who will also have at their disposal a new Specialized Service Center for Women (Ceam), located in the Integrated Operations Center of Brasília (Ciob). “The idea is that the victim does not receive only the protection of the device, but the specific psychosocial care for the treatment of this moment of vulnerability”, explains Éricka Filippelli, Secretary of State for Women.
* Fictitious names to protect the victim's identity